What's new Sunday?
Hi my OFF family:
It's Sunday morning. I had a long, but fulfilling, night on the sports desk. Almost like old times, only with one page (but a big page). After two weekends of doing easy pages, the desk chief decided
I was "worthy" of doing something more important and gave me the hockey and baksetball page. But that meant I had to stay for two changes and much later than I was expecting ... plus, I was expecting the crew to order out dinner and didn't bring anything but drinks. With no time to get anything, I was stuck with eating peanuts from the vending machine ... well, at least it was protein.
So I was feeling pretty good when I got home until I opened the mail. Again, the condo association is threatening about my back condo fees. I still owe them $1,300 from when I got behind two years ago. I paid $2,000 this year and want to pay extra but I just don't have it. I'm trying to keep up on the monthly fees, but it's hard when everything is going up and my pay is going down. I
get so stressed about this. I can't take loans out, I can't refi until I'm out of bankruptcy, I have nowhere to get the money from. I can't ask my mom for any more money, she's given me too much already and I can't pay her back. I'll be out of bankruptcy by the end of the year, and when I get my income tax refund next year,
I'll be able to pay them back. Why can't they understand this?
It's not like I have extra money laying around. I'm driving around
a 13-year-old car. In a few more weeks, I'm going to get $100 less a week ... so much for the tax cut! I just don't know what else
to do.
Well, enough of my crying. I just needed to get it off my chest.
I have no big plans for today. I'm going to make Waikiki meatballs for dinner and have it for most of the week; going to give some
to my friend Kim, who's taking me on Monday to my pain doctor's appointment. She had some of it the last time I made it and liked
it, so I told her I'd give her some more. Otherwise, it's just baseball and reading.
Have a good day.
It's Sunday morning. I had a long, but fulfilling, night on the sports desk. Almost like old times, only with one page (but a big page). After two weekends of doing easy pages, the desk chief decided
I was "worthy" of doing something more important and gave me the hockey and baksetball page. But that meant I had to stay for two changes and much later than I was expecting ... plus, I was expecting the crew to order out dinner and didn't bring anything but drinks. With no time to get anything, I was stuck with eating peanuts from the vending machine ... well, at least it was protein.
So I was feeling pretty good when I got home until I opened the mail. Again, the condo association is threatening about my back condo fees. I still owe them $1,300 from when I got behind two years ago. I paid $2,000 this year and want to pay extra but I just don't have it. I'm trying to keep up on the monthly fees, but it's hard when everything is going up and my pay is going down. I
get so stressed about this. I can't take loans out, I can't refi until I'm out of bankruptcy, I have nowhere to get the money from. I can't ask my mom for any more money, she's given me too much already and I can't pay her back. I'll be out of bankruptcy by the end of the year, and when I get my income tax refund next year,
I'll be able to pay them back. Why can't they understand this?
It's not like I have extra money laying around. I'm driving around
a 13-year-old car. In a few more weeks, I'm going to get $100 less a week ... so much for the tax cut! I just don't know what else
to do.
Well, enough of my crying. I just needed to get it off my chest.
I have no big plans for today. I'm going to make Waikiki meatballs for dinner and have it for most of the week; going to give some
to my friend Kim, who's taking me on Monday to my pain doctor's appointment. She had some of it the last time I made it and liked
it, so I told her I'd give her some more. Otherwise, it's just baseball and reading.
Have a good day.
Thanks for starting us out today, Eileen. It is 7am and I just woke up. I laid my head on the pillow and that is all she wrote at midnight.
Margo is still sleeping away, Her birds Chico and Ruby are just beautiful!!!!! So are her parakeets.
Today I am taking my friend who traveled with me home to South Haven Michigan, Go see my sister for a minute, then drive up to Muskegon. My cousin and I are going to then go to Pt Huron Michigan for a few days then to Chicago.
My car is running fine. Getting about 34 miles to the gallon and gas is cheap up here for now. I am paying about 1.89 a gallon.
I need to call Nan and Eileen today.
Hope everyone has a great Sunday.
Carla
Margo is still sleeping away, Her birds Chico and Ruby are just beautiful!!!!! So are her parakeets.
Today I am taking my friend who traveled with me home to South Haven Michigan, Go see my sister for a minute, then drive up to Muskegon. My cousin and I are going to then go to Pt Huron Michigan for a few days then to Chicago.
My car is running fine. Getting about 34 miles to the gallon and gas is cheap up here for now. I am paying about 1.89 a gallon.
I need to call Nan and Eileen today.
Hope everyone has a great Sunday.
Carla
Good Morning, Eileen. Hello to everyone.
I can't sleep. Been up since 3 a.m.
My mother called yesterday looking for a fight. With her dementia, she has become very much like a two year old. It is hard to deal with her at times. Yesterday was one of those. Today, we are going over to the assisted living place to have lunch with our moms and then take them out shopping. I hope it all works out OK. Ron's mom has only been there 3 months and so far she is enjoying herself and participating in everything. My mom, on the other hand, has been there almost three years and she hates it. She says she is lonely. She looks to me to be her everything. I am trying to set boundaries and have been going to therapy to work on this. Still, she can push my buttons the way no one else can.
I think this is why I can't sleep tonight.
Oh, well, I will make it through.
Hope everyone has a nice, relaxing Sunday.
Cindy P.
I can't sleep. Been up since 3 a.m.
My mother called yesterday looking for a fight. With her dementia, she has become very much like a two year old. It is hard to deal with her at times. Yesterday was one of those. Today, we are going over to the assisted living place to have lunch with our moms and then take them out shopping. I hope it all works out OK. Ron's mom has only been there 3 months and so far she is enjoying herself and participating in everything. My mom, on the other hand, has been there almost three years and she hates it. She says she is lonely. She looks to me to be her everything. I am trying to set boundaries and have been going to therapy to work on this. Still, she can push my buttons the way no one else can.
I think this is why I can't sleep tonight.
Oh, well, I will make it through.
Hope everyone has a nice, relaxing Sunday.
Cindy P.
Cindy, I know what you are speaking about. I went through similar things with my mom and it can be very difficult and frustrating. Dementia is such a hard thing on family. I know it can be hard on them too but it seems to me that is hardest on the family and those who have to deal with it.
I found that a lot of times Mom would pick a fight when she realized that our relationship changed and she resented it. Our relationship went her being the mom and me the child to me being the mom and she was the child. When she realized this she got very resentful and it would come out in anger for her. Most times (and notice I said most not all) I would just ignore it and not play into her game but there was times that I just played right in. Those were the more harder of times.
And really, I think, that if anyone can push our buttons, that would be our Mom's for sure. They know us so well and just what the buttons are and where they are at. And they become perfect button pushers!!!!!!
I am keeping you in my prayers......and please know that when the time comes for her to pass you will be glad that you spent the time with her.
Sending love and hugs to you, dear sister........
I found that a lot of times Mom would pick a fight when she realized that our relationship changed and she resented it. Our relationship went her being the mom and me the child to me being the mom and she was the child. When she realized this she got very resentful and it would come out in anger for her. Most times (and notice I said most not all) I would just ignore it and not play into her game but there was times that I just played right in. Those were the more harder of times.
And really, I think, that if anyone can push our buttons, that would be our Mom's for sure. They know us so well and just what the buttons are and where they are at. And they become perfect button pushers!!!!!!
I am keeping you in my prayers......and please know that when the time comes for her to pass you will be glad that you spent the time with her.
Sending love and hugs to you, dear sister........
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
Brenda:
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to my post about my struggles with mom.
It IS hard. On everyone involved.
The end of life stage is different for everyone. My mother sees misery everywhere. Ron's mom is just the opposite.
I am trying to find a happy medium -- being supportive to mom without losing myself in the process. On-going therapy has helped me a lot.
Cindy P.
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to my post about my struggles with mom.
It IS hard. On everyone involved.
The end of life stage is different for everyone. My mother sees misery everywhere. Ron's mom is just the opposite.
I am trying to find a happy medium -- being supportive to mom without losing myself in the process. On-going therapy has helped me a lot.
Cindy P.
Good Sunday morning to you, Eileen and my other OFF siblings. I hope that today is great for everyone.
Today is a nice day out. It is still going to be chilly today but it is sunny and the birds are chatting away along with their beautiful songs too. We have the patio door open a bit and it feels so nice having the fresh air in here. I just might go out today. I was going to yesterday but didn't do it. Today might be the day. It is much nicer than yesterday.....it doesn't seem as cold to me.
Shawn, Carol and my Kayden is coming over this afternoon for a bit...or at least they are suppose to. I am anxious to see Kayden......it has been a week and I miss him so much. I am hoping that they stay for a while so I can cuddle and kiss on my Grandson. He needs Grandma cuddling, it has been to long......
I am feeling a bit better today. It seems with each new day comes less pain and more ability to move easier. I am still taking the pain meds but I think that I am going to try to decrease the amount from the maximum down a bit.
I am going to get outta here for a while. Keep taking care of yourself and know that I am sending love and hugs to all. Prayers are being said for all of you too. Keep smiling and know that it spreads happiness all around you. That is one thing that we should do all the time.....spread happiness in our part of the world. Smile and make someone else smile and then there is more smiles in this world of ours. We need smiles and maybe a bit more right about now.
Today is a nice day out. It is still going to be chilly today but it is sunny and the birds are chatting away along with their beautiful songs too. We have the patio door open a bit and it feels so nice having the fresh air in here. I just might go out today. I was going to yesterday but didn't do it. Today might be the day. It is much nicer than yesterday.....it doesn't seem as cold to me.
Shawn, Carol and my Kayden is coming over this afternoon for a bit...or at least they are suppose to. I am anxious to see Kayden......it has been a week and I miss him so much. I am hoping that they stay for a while so I can cuddle and kiss on my Grandson. He needs Grandma cuddling, it has been to long......
I am feeling a bit better today. It seems with each new day comes less pain and more ability to move easier. I am still taking the pain meds but I think that I am going to try to decrease the amount from the maximum down a bit.
I am going to get outta here for a while. Keep taking care of yourself and know that I am sending love and hugs to all. Prayers are being said for all of you too. Keep smiling and know that it spreads happiness all around you. That is one thing that we should do all the time.....spread happiness in our part of the world. Smile and make someone else smile and then there is more smiles in this world of ours. We need smiles and maybe a bit more right about now.
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
Good Sunday morning to everyone.
Eileen, I am sorry you are having to worry so much about your finances. It is such a tough time for people right now. I have to admit that we are financially stable right now. But who knows what will happen in a few years. When my husband retired a few years back, we thought that we would be financially stable when we were in our 70's and 80's, but not so sure now how it will be. It is quite scary.
They are talking about cutting our pay with the state and/or doing furloughs. I will be alright, but I know there are others who will be overburdened. What irritates me is people like my idiot co-worker who sit around doing nothing all day and takes up space. She gives state workers a bad name. But if there are layoffs, they won't look into her background and how much work she misses and how little work she does around there and make her be the first one to be laid off. Someone *****ally needs a job will be cut.
Cindy, I am so sorry about your mom and her dementia. My mom had ahlzheimers and it was so hard on my dad. I did not live close by and it hurt to see my dad have to go through all this. It is harder on the caretakers.
I went and had my MRI done on my hip Friday. The therapy didn't seem to help and they suggested a cortisone shot but he wanted an MRI first. I guess I will find out next week the results. Not really looking forward to a cortisone shot.
Well guess I better get going. Take care!
Mickey
Eileen, I am sorry you are having to worry so much about your finances. It is such a tough time for people right now. I have to admit that we are financially stable right now. But who knows what will happen in a few years. When my husband retired a few years back, we thought that we would be financially stable when we were in our 70's and 80's, but not so sure now how it will be. It is quite scary.
They are talking about cutting our pay with the state and/or doing furloughs. I will be alright, but I know there are others who will be overburdened. What irritates me is people like my idiot co-worker who sit around doing nothing all day and takes up space. She gives state workers a bad name. But if there are layoffs, they won't look into her background and how much work she misses and how little work she does around there and make her be the first one to be laid off. Someone *****ally needs a job will be cut.
Cindy, I am so sorry about your mom and her dementia. My mom had ahlzheimers and it was so hard on my dad. I did not live close by and it hurt to see my dad have to go through all this. It is harder on the caretakers.
I went and had my MRI done on my hip Friday. The therapy didn't seem to help and they suggested a cortisone shot but he wanted an MRI first. I guess I will find out next week the results. Not really looking forward to a cortisone shot.
Well guess I better get going. Take care!
Mickey
Mickey:
I don't have the daily care responsibilities for mom as she is in assisted living.
She refuses to involve herself with others at the facility and wants me to be her social network.
When she first came here, I went to see her everyday. She would often sit across from me with her eyes closed and rock in her recliner and not say anyting. One day, this when on for over 45 minutes.
I said to myself after that that I wasn't going to do that any more. Since then, I have begun to set limits and boundaries.
My brother is completely off the hook in terms of responsibilities for mom. She demands nothing from him. I, however, am expected to be everything for her.
My husband and I have bent over backwards but, at this point in her decline into dementia, nothing is appreciated.
It gets very old. I try to remain positive -- but it's hard.
Enough about that. I didn't mean to dump on you.
Cindy P.
I don't have the daily care responsibilities for mom as she is in assisted living.
She refuses to involve herself with others at the facility and wants me to be her social network.
When she first came here, I went to see her everyday. She would often sit across from me with her eyes closed and rock in her recliner and not say anyting. One day, this when on for over 45 minutes.
I said to myself after that that I wasn't going to do that any more. Since then, I have begun to set limits and boundaries.
My brother is completely off the hook in terms of responsibilities for mom. She demands nothing from him. I, however, am expected to be everything for her.
My husband and I have bent over backwards but, at this point in her decline into dementia, nothing is appreciated.
It gets very old. I try to remain positive -- but it's hard.
Enough about that. I didn't mean to dump on you.
Cindy P.
Aloha Mickey......I just wanted to respond to your mention of a cortisone shot. I have calcified tendonitis (sp?) in my right shoulder, and my ortho doc has given me three cortisone shots so far. Each time it really makes a HUGE difference, and the last time I got a shot was about a year ago and I have had NO pain since the last shot. Do not fear them....they are easy and will make a world of difference.
Aloha nui loa,
Maui Karen
Aloha nui loa,
Maui Karen
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